Have you ever had a phase in your life when you’re doing really well in one area of your life but you almost feel guilty because another area is suffering and you’re left wondering how people achieve this mythical work life balance?
Maybe you’re KILLING it at work but your family resents you for it because you’re never there for them.
… Or maybe your social life is awesome but you’re not taking care of your body.
Here’s the thing…
Balance means being able to create success that’s sustainable and fulfilling, rather than a life where you’re constantly sabotaging your own success.Balance means being able to create success that's sustainable and fulfilling, rather than a life where you're constantly sabotaging your own success. Click To Tweet
Let’s say you’re killing it at work but your spouse hates that you work so much… You’ll probably start working more to avoid having to deal with the negativity from your spouse, whether that negativity is confrontational or passive aggressive.
By working more, you might end up adopting self-destructive habits to maintain your energy and the spiral continues.
… And then we’re left wondering why “everything goes bad at the same time”.
It’s because we weren’t focused on balance.
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To avoid that from happening, let’s talk about the 7 ‘S’ words that are the different areas of your life and then how to establish balance between them.
It’s not just about work life balance…
I’m not just talking about work life balance… Because work life balance is implying that work should get the same amount of time and attention as your life when that’s not the case. There are SO many areas of your life that need your focus too and when you’re not clear on that, you’ll still feel out of balance.
Instead of just talking about work life balance, let’s talk about the 6 S words.
The 7 S Words
The goal of balance is to be at a place of contentment where you are at peace with your life. That doesn’t mean that you’re not aspiring to greater things, it’s simply focusing on ensuring that you’re succeeding in all areas of your life.
As we’re going through this, don’t just sit here and scroll through… Focus on how you can put it into action.
I’ve created a totally free workbook for you so you can break this down and find the balance that you’re looking for:
It Starts With You
The first three S Words are focused on you.
Self: If you’re not taking care of yourself, every other area of your life is going to be unsustainable. Think about it this way… If you hate how you look, don’t feel good about yourself, are unfulfilled and hate to wake up every single day, how in the world do you expect to succeed everywhere else in your life? You might be able to for a short time but you won’t be able to sustain it.
Self-Development: Tony Robbins says that the recipe for fulfillment is growth and contribution, so it’s no wonder that 78% of the workforce aren’t fulfilled in their careers. Just because you’re in a job doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be invested in your own personal growth. Our brains are designed to learn and grow so push your brain outside of it’s comfort zone and continue learning.
Spirituality: I know this is a hot button issue so before we get into this, by definition, spirituality means the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things… The reality is that whether you believe in a higher being, your own consciousness, the little voice in the back of your head or a universal energy, all of these are forms of spirituality. How often are you getting in touch with yourself? How often are you taking time to be present and express gratitude? How often are you having purposeful conversations with yourself or your higher being?
Relationships With Others
The next 3 S Words have to do with your relationship with other people.
Spouse + Seed: Your immediate family should take priority over any of your “other” relationships.
Service: It’s no secret that you feel good when you give. The more you give, the more compassionate you become and the more connected you are to the world around you. This isn’t just about giving money…. Your time, resources and connections are part of service too.
Social: Humans are social creatures. We survive in communities so building and maintaining relationships is super important. Social counts as any relationship outside of yourself — spouse, kids, family, friends and coworkers. If you’re struggling in your personal relationships, are having a hard time connecting with them or have some negative animosity, balance will be incredibly difficult.
While we’re talking about other people, everyone has these 6 priorities, the difference is that we all prioritize them differently.
For some people, their number one priority is going to be security and they’re probably going to be less of risk takers than someone whose number one priority is self-development…. Someone who’s priority is social may care about their physical image more than someone whose number one is spirituality.
There’s nothing wrong with any of these, just realize that they are different and the goal is to understand yourself so that you can understand others and have better relationships with them.
The last S Word has everything to do with money. It’s important to note that this stands on it’s own because it’s meant to be used as a tool to fund the perfect life, it’s not meant to be the end all be all.
Security: This is your financial security… Are you behind your bills? Is the debt racking up? Are you dipping into your savings or are you overspending? All of these things will weigh on you and keep you from being able to reach your goals.
Turning The S Words Into Balance
First things first, it’s important to note that if you were to prioritize the 7 S Words and rank them from most important to least important and then rank them based on how you’re currently spending your time, you’ll almost inevitably find that they’re directly related to your level of happiness and peace of mind.
Instead of giving you high level theory, I created a workbook to help you put this into action.
In this workbook, you’ll go through the exact same process that I use during our workshops to help people break this down.
You’ll outline a typical week for you to see how you’re currently spending your time and then dig deep to prioritize the S Words. Then, you’ll decide on which areas you want to work on and make minor tweaks to your schedule so that your schedule aligns with your priorities.
You can download the free 7-page workbook right here:
Stop Separating Your Personal and Professional Lives
I find that a lot of young professionals try to keep their personal and professional lives separate and then are constantly wondering why they’re unfulfilled and burning out.
Instead of separating the two, look for ways to merge them.
… Yes, I’m aware this goes completely against all of the old school rules of professionalism but your sanity and peace of mind deserve it.
When the lines are blurred, you’re able to be more authentic to yourself because you’re no longer trying to display different versions of yourself at different times… You’re just you.
Not to mention, this also helps in building relationships because people will know what to expect with you, regardless of the atmosphere.
There isn’t enough you to be two people, so stop trying to be.
Ready to put this into action?
Download the workbook right here: